The Importance of Aftercare: Let’s Talk About Sub-Drop

I really haven’t blogged about anything sexually in the past, but I’m going to open up in this post and talk about the importance of after care for your sub. I have been active for about 5 years heavily in the fetish community, and I cringe everything I hear horror stories about oblivious Doms  Let’s talk about something called a SUBDROP.

Subdrop is usally the result of impact play. Impact play can include things like heavy spanking, paddling, flogging, caning, whipping, etx.. The application of pain release two key chemicals in the body. 

1) Adrenaline. Adrenaline is released at the onset of pain as part of the fight or flight response. It significally enchances the heart rate, dilates the pupils to allow more light in, makes you more sensative to touch.

In the moment, adrenaline can be hard to notice, it comes on so fast and so hard that you don’t always realize it. But when you come down from the adrenaline, it crashes on you. You feel cold because you blood has moved away from your extremities. You feel shaky because your mind is crashing, and you might even feel a little feint as your blood pressure which was moments ago sky-high, is now plummeting.

2) Endorphins: Endorphins are a really cool chemical that the body produces to make us feel good when maybe we shouldn’t. It helps makes pain. When you laugh for example, you body releases them to mask the pain that is caused by the spasming of your abdominal muscles. The rush can’t last forever unfortunately, and eventually laughing happily turns into laughing so hard that it hurts. That’s because the endorphins are wearing off and suddenly you can feel the discomfort (or pain) that your body was masking.

When pain is applied to a submissive by their dominant, the body releases massive doses of endorphins to counter-act the painful sensations, and the release of them can actually make the experience of pain, quite pleasurable. It’s been compared to morphine, and can make the submissive feel like they’re flying or having an out-of-body experience.

That’s SUBSPACE.

If you’ve ever had the privilege of seeing great sadists and masochists play together, you’ll understand exactly what I’m talking about and how beautiful it can be. It’s also why a dominant must be very good at understanding where their submissive is at, and well attuned to their facial expressions and orientations. Dominants, even deeply sadistic ones, care about, love, protect, and cherish their submissives, and that care can be seen in the intensity of their attentiveness.


The drop (subdrop) of course comes afterwards. When the impact play stops, so does the bodies dump of chemicals. Suddenly the paddling that hurt at first, then became pleasurable – now REALLY hurts. And the feeling of flying that the submissive was experiencing is now a physical and emotional CRASH. The submissive is likely in a fair amount of pain, potentially disoriented, light headed or dizzy due to the lack of blood (and therefor oxygen to the brain as the body pooled it’s resources internally), and certainly emotionally drained due to any adrenaline that is still pulsing through their veins.

That’s why AFTERCARE is so critical.

You’ll see the submissive come down from the St. Andrews cross, off the spanking bench, or out of the stocks and be held and loved by their dominant in a nice quiet, safe space where they can be together, alone. Snuggles will be had, lotions will be applied, hair will be stroked, tears will be kissed away. Away from the noise, away from everything. Free to take what was an intense physical experience and manifest it as an intensely emotional experience.

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Sex Toy Thief Giving Off Bad Vibes

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My friends always forward me some crazy stuff, so I though I would share.

Oscar Gil, 18, is accused of stealing a vibrator after a female friend express that she wanted it. The vibrator cost $12.99, but Oscar open the package, and pocketed the item. During the check out the store manager got bad vibes from the male. A deputy asked spoke to Oscar, he admitted to swiping it after his female friend said she wanted it.

Oscar Gil was arrested on a misdemeanor for shoplifting.

My thoughts: I could only imangine that this happens way more than I think it does. You can’t do nothing but to laugh at the sheer stupidity. After reading several articles, they never say that the female was his girlfriend. Maybe a fwb situation, but I think this dude was in the friendzone. I need a follow up on this asap.

-JiNX-

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Japan does it again! Introducing the pillow companion!

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Everybody knows Japan can get quite weird, and as always they have not let us down with this new pillow. Japan has an anime huggy pillow. The anime pillow responds to your rubbing with moans and groans, and gets angry if you get too grabby. Cannot make this up.

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You can rub the character breast, crotch, and you have a love/hate meter to grade your performance. Jinx don’t judge. If humping pillows is your thing, go for it! It’ll cost you around $2,560.00 though…

-JiNX

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Valentine’s Day: 50 Shades of Grey

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Last night I asked Jamie if she made up her mind if she wanted to see the 50 Shades of Grey movie for valentines before we set out for our ballroom dancing event. Her exact words were “ No! I wanna see it, but not in a room full of other horny women.” Anyways, I’m sure many will go and see the movie on the release date. Recently, critics released on what they thought about the movie.

Justin Craig from Fox News says “ Sure there’s plenty of nudity, but more salacious material is shown every day on cable. It’s not even close to late night Cinemax. You’ll find more disturbing images in Saw or Game of Thrones.”

Rafer Guzman from Newsday’s says “ You might be equally agog at how an R-rated film full of kinky sex and dirty talk could be so painfully dull. The actors are attractive, and we see just about every naked inch of them. Despite all the waist-down action, though, the movie has no pulse. What’s more, it’s dead from the neck up.”

Justin Chang from Variety says “Unfortunately, it’s a drama that can scarcely sustain one movie, let alone three. And as our heroine becomes ever more aware of just how dark Christian’s dark side is, Fifty Shades of Grey starts to lose it’s sense of humor and elicit the wrong kind of giggles-climaxing with a hilariously overblown S&M montage laden with so many slow-motion dissolves as the suggest that Ana wasn’t the only one wearing a blindfold during the assembly.”

My thoughts: I think this is important. Many people I talk to think it’s going to be really explicit because of the content of the book. I’ve read two books out of the trilogy, and for the most part I love it. At times the book dialog is poorly written and it can get repetitive at times. It’s something to let your mind run free as you’re reading. I anticipate 50 Shades of Grey is going to be very successful during it’s opening weekend . Marketing the movie on Valentines is really going to help this movie. After the opening weekend, I feel like it’s really going to die off. There are several books that make incredible movies, but I don’t think erotica will do well in this transition. Just going to have to wait and see, and when I do end up seeing it I wil give you guys my official thoughts.

You had me at “Sex Mountain”

Participants from all walks of life: housewives, government officials to prostitutes all indulge in a mass ritual of adultery pleasure. It’s an ancient tradition that’s takes place in a small portion of the world’s largest Muslim majority country, Indonesia. Ladies and gentlemen. I present to you, Sex Mountain!

Thousands of Indonesian pilgrims travel across the archipelago to Gunung Kemukus take part of religious sexual rituals on top of a mountain. This ritual is said to date back to the 16th century. The reason for this ritual is thay by having sex out of wedlock at the holy site will bring them good luck and fortune.

But wait, there’s a catch! In order for this ritual to work the sex partner for the ritual should not be a spouse. Also, the pilgrims must copulate on the mountain every 35 days, seven consecutive times. Majority of the pilgrims consist of poor farmers and workers who is looking to more success.

As you could imangine, according to sexual health doctors diseases run rampart as many men do not wear condoms.

-JiNX
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