What love is…. to me anyways…

I see a lot of posts about how people think relationships mean having butterflies forever, your heart beating faster when they walk into a room, about cuddling together every night, legs intertwined, that you’d be so happy to live together you’d sleep on a double bed with each other every night.

And its not really like that, at least not to me.

You stop getting the butterflies when you live together. Your heart no longer speeds up when you see them, but instead, everything calms down. When you’re in the room with them, you feel calm, and secure. When you cuddle them you feel your heart beat slow, and the sound of their breathing carry you towards comfort. It doesn’t feel like a roller coaster anymore, it feels like home.

You don’t sleep curled up with each other every night, legs twisted between theirs so tight its hard to tell where yours begin and theirs end. Instead, you sleep comfortably, side by side, sometimes facing different directions. But every night, you find yourself scooting backwards on the bed so you bump into them. You snuggle against their arm, or stroke their hair as they fall asleep.

Kisses aren’t always romantic and fiery anymore. But there are so much more of them now. There the cold kisses when you’re eating ice cream in the summer, and sticky kisses over breakfast pancakes. There’s “im leaving now” kisses, and “one more kiss before you go” kisses. There’s sleepy morning kisses before work, when you don’t remember the alarm going off but instead the press of their lips against yours is what brings you into the day. There’s kisses before sleep, and, you are so sweet with the things you do kisses. There’s kisses because you treat animals so tenderly, and I’m so glad i’m with you and not someone else kisses. There’s quick kisses in the aisles of the grocery store, when its loud and you gravitate together, when instead of having your own personal space and their own personal space, its both of yours together, and you step into their chest to take up less area together.

You don’t always text each other with confessions of love and care like you used to, because that’s a given now, and you’ve moved on to quirky inside jokes about the life you’ve built together. You share looks of exasperation and amusement in public, your own little world against the outside one.

Relationships aren’t always a fairy tale. They’re not always fireworks and sparks, at least, after the start.
But they are a quiet rhythm and hum of love and care. It’s not a fire in your soul, but one in your heart, keeping you warm and comfortable, comforting you as you drowsily drift into sleep.

And I love that. What love is to you?

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Break up: Unrequited Love

Today, I had to do something I needed to do. It was very difficult, but I broke up with my girlfriend because of unrequited love. Basically, I was way into her than she was with me, and I’ve been disrespected in this relationship a lot. There was a lot of thinking to try and figure out what part of this was my doing, and what I could do to change it. I thought I did everything right. I showed her off to all my friends, planned exciting dates or at least what we were into, helped her out financially when she needed it, drop all my plans just to be with her when she needed me, but I never could get that from her. Not even a phone call.

I have not been lucky in love. I’ve been blessed with some amazing moments over the years, but somehow have managed to choose partners who did not want what I wanted, did not feel what I felt, and did not want to walk beside me into a future together. Unrequited love s toxic, and can eat you alive.

Right now it’s taking how much time I need to heal properly before even thinking about a next relationship. Trying to give someone my all while healing is a recipe for disaster, we all know this. For those of you have been blessed to find romantic love that is equally shared, I truly admire this, and I have set the intention to find it one day. It all starts with being aware, open, and ready. I don’t regret none of it. You live and learn.

-JiNX

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Dance God’s be with me…

Tonight is the night. The white and red tux is ready to go. My body is ready, and hopefully my mind will be too… Jamie and I been taking ball room dancing lessons to learn a routine, so I wouldn’t be a total noob at it when we have the floor. Jamie is pretty much a pro, so I’m excited to show her how far I came.

Confession time… You know when you see a black guy at a party, or whatever gathering and you just say to yourself “I bet that mofo can dance.” Then he proceeds to dance like Elaine from Seinfeld. Yeah.. I’m that black guy, but not tonight! It’s kinda funny that me and Jamie swap when it comes to racial sterotypes. She’s the white girl that can dance effortlessly. I just try and keep up. Anyways, I’m excited. Tonight I’ll be cha cha’n into those panties.

What Women need to understand about Men.

By the end of this post ladies hopefully you have a better understatement about men. Just like you guys have certain traits, so do we. Lets divulge

The Guy Code

There’s obvious strict dos and don’t that we will never violate. We don’t sleep around with our friends family member, keep our friends infidelities a secret, and whenever there’s a fight we back each other up. The problem is that women don’t understand how we can stick with our buddies even if we don’t agree with the morality of an judgment. There’s no judgment in the guy code.

The need to fix things

“Call Mike the mechanic? Hell no! I can’t fix this!… Mkay. Don’t believe me, just watch!” I’m a total bio nerd. I work in a lab for a living, but whenever something breaks it gives me an opportunity to whip out my toolbox or whatever I need to fix whatever broken. It’s just in a mans DNA. If we cannot fix it we call our bros over, brainstorm, and work while knocking back beers. It’s a male bonding experience, it’s just something we do. Again, the need to fix things just runs through our veins.

Fart Humor

I don’t get why we find farting situations hilarious, but we just do. Instead on rolling the windows down in the car we roll them up and make everyone in the car suffer.

Constantly Adjusting Our Junk

Everthing is moving around down there. Depending on the underwear our junk is chafing, pinching, and squeezing. So please… Pleeaassseee spare us from the disgusting looks or your eye rolls. You don’t have to live with big ass dick and balls.

Sandwiches

I don’t get why women haven’t hopped on the sandwich train yet. They’re sandwiches! With unlimited sandwich combos! How?! How you ladies are not crazy about them?!

Destined To Be Grill Gods

You’re not a man until you can BBQ or grilling something with with grade A proficiency. Just like women may pass down recipes from generation to generation. Men pass this down to their sons. It’s enjoyable. Stand around the grill knocking back beer talking about oh well the meat is cooking with your guy friends around.

We like getting treated from time to time

As men I fell like majority of the time were making plans for dates, etc, etc. However, I can tell you it’s really appreciated when a girl tell us. My girlfriend Jamie told me “Hey I date night Saturday night. Dress casual. See your cute ass soon.” I was completely shocked! She even gave me flowers for that night. It’s rare, but just know it’s definitely appreciated and it’s a great idea introduce your man to something that you’re into. Also, trust me your man will most likely brag to your boys about it. Shit my girl brought me flowers and shit and took me out. What your girl doing?

Why we can’t ask for help.

Just like the reason we believe we can fix things. We can do anything and work through any problem. We just need some more time.

Holding on to certain objects.

As men there’s item that we refuse to replace. Like our favorite wallet, boots/shoes, watches, and even down to out comfortable holy underwear. So please ladies don’t try to understand. Just let us do us in this department.

Video Games

Ladies you may think they’re childish and we should grow up, but hear me out. I understand that you may not want to play COD, Destiny, GTAV, 2k, Madden or whatever with us for hours straight. A lot of guys don’t like to sit around watching movies or shows for end on end. Games combine our love of action, adventure with out love of competition. This is something you just have to let go.

Why we hate shopping so much

It’s annoying, boring, and expensive. Yes you look pretty. Yes that dress makes your hips/ass look perfect. Yes that new push up bra will push your boobs right in front of your face. CAN WE JUST PLEASE GO!

The Toilet Seat

We honestly try to remember to put the toilet seat down ladies we really do, but we’re on autopilot when urinating. I’m truly really sorry babe that you got your butt wet because you tried to use the bathroom in the middle of the night, and the seat was up.

Thirsty Thursdays! A little bar hopping

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Jamie & Rebecca

Jamie’s week been pretty hectic, so we decided to go bar hopping tonight. I think it’s something we both needed. Her boss is pressing a lot from her lately. She have to pick up the slack until her employer hire another chem engineer. I’ve been busy with crossfit, working full time at the university doing research, and taking on two classes in grad school. Times like this is needed, even if it’s only for two hours.

I feel really relax sitting in bed right now waiting on Jamie to come to bed. Still debating if I should go to crossfit at 5:30am like I always do or sleep in and go into work at 9am. Love you guys. I’ll blog again shortly.

-JiNX
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Jinx Reviews: New Orleans – Steamboat Natchez Cruise

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  (Entrance gate to the Steamboat Natchez)

When Jamie and I went to Louisiana, so she could me meet my family and friends we had a fun date night. I took her to the Steamboat Natchez Riverboat cruise in New Orleans, LA! There’s paid parking right by the location, so you don’t have to walk far at all to get to the steamboat. Which works well for ladies that wants to dress up, but not walk a ton in heels. The crowd majority will be dressed up because they’re taking their significant other out on a date. There’s no set dress code, so if you just want to go with friends to experience it, you can.

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             (The picked dining area)

The tickets that I brought was for two with the meal included. There’s usually two seating times for dinner. I booked the earlier time, so we could actually enjoy the view for the whole cruise. The second seating will take place when the steamboat actually leave. The meals are a buffet style and of course you have to pay for the drinks. Get the banana frost martini, its awesome! The only downside about this part of the cruise is you’re so close to everybody else. Its tightly packed inside. At one point, Jamie and I was almost at the point of shouting just to get some kind of dialog across. Funny thing was the couple right next from us were from Alabama and jumped into out conversation, so for the rest of the dinning experience it was more of a double date with strangers. Jamie and I are really friendly and outgoing, so it didn’t bother us any.

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    (The beautiful Crescent City, New Orleans)

Lastly, the captain will take you up and down the Mississippi River. Don’t worry about being cramped like before. There’s three levels outside and plenty of room to be able to sit anywhere you want too. When you set sail, the trip is about a 45mins to 1 hour. The captain will point out anything interesting along the coast that may be there.

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          (Fireworks show near the casino)

FINAL VERDICT: 7/10 with the seal of Jinx seal of approval! The only reason this experience gets a 7 is because of the dining accommodations. Besides that, it’s worth every penny. If you’re ever in New Orleans, tell your girl/boy to get all dressed up and take them. The French Quarter, Bourbon street and other places that’s worth checking out is not that far away, so you can walk somewhere without having to move your car to another parking space. It’s worth checking out.

-JiNX
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Busy, Busy Bee!

It’s definitely been awhile since the last time I blog. Seems like the closer I get to Christmas, the more busier I get. I leave to go to Costa Rica on the 21st and I haven’t done anything to prepare for the trip, as far as packing and making sure everything is in order before I make the trip. Hopefully, by the end of this weekend I will have posted couple blog at least 5; Trap Fest, Crown the Empire concert, The Renaissance Festival, Thanksgiving and my Birthday. With that being said I have to run a few errands. Will try and post tonight if we don’t go to the sports bar to watch the game tonight and also questions that are in my ask.fm

I decided I’m going to stay here in Austin and work for Texas University. I love my research team here and Austin in my opinion is the best city in Texas. Living downtown cost a shit load, but for me it’s so worth it. Family and friends are good and Jamie and I made it official about a week ago. Whenever we go out somewhere, it’s always a great time and best of all, there is no drama. Her family matches mines with how goofy they can be at times. It’s true when they say you’ll find someone when you’re aren’t looking at all. I really had no intention of getting into another relationship for the rest of this year and just enjoy the holidays, but I’m glad that I took her offer when she asked me out on a date. Everybody is giving me shit for it because people still don’t think it’s normal for women to ask a man out if shes interested in him. It’s playful teasing on both side of the family on who wears the pants, etc, etc.

Remember guys, this is the season of giving. Gives till it hurts! Jamie and I will be volunteering this weekend at a local hospital to spread some holiday cheer. No matter at what capacity you can give, do it!  As I said I will try and post at least again tonight. You guys be cool, stay safe and much love!

-JiNX
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